The process of transformation is slow and often painful. The work usually isn't fun or very exciting. In fact, change can be a painstaking development that requires a lot of time and effort, and positive outcomes can be elusive.
I had a breakthrough in my transformation journey this week. It began with lunch with one of my college roommates. I thoroughly enjoyed catching up on her family’s comings and goings, and sharing about the latest in my own life.
But as we spoke, I thought back to those first few months we lived together more than twenty years earlier. My roommate was just as friendly and sweet then as she is now. I, on the other hand, used to be very guarded and mistrustful. I didn’t like her very much, and was rather aloof. But she was persistent – and kind. Eventually, she won me over and became a dear friend.
Sitting over a salad this week, I was struck by how much I had changed in the ensuing years. Back when we lived together, I didn’t like to talk about myself. I had few close friends. I was bottling up secrets that prevented me from letting anyone in. As a result, keeping them was tearing me up.
Change didn’t happen overnight. I started by seeing a therapist – and letting out those secrets. Then I decided to trust the people in my life – the acquaintances who were around me but never very close. They responded well and helped me feel safe in being myself.
Today my life was an open book. There isn’t much I won’t share, especially if I think it will help someone else. I have dear friends who I can trust, with whom I can share my life. I’m grateful for the slow process of transformation that got me to today. It's pretty awesome!
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Crystal Moore began her wellness quest in 2003 after being diagnosed with lupus. Her quest has led her to embrace yoga, faith, exercise, healthy eating, and relationships. Share her journey.