I was raised in a single, female-headed household. My mom worked hard to provide everything my older sister and I needed. She ensured that we got the best educations she could afford, and there was always enough money for a few books to add to my ever-growing collection. I had new school clothes each fall and plenty to eat for each meal. My clothes weren’t fancy, and my sister and I shared a bedroom in the Bronx. So I was far from spoiled, but I never went without.
Sometimes the food my mom prepared would look so good that I loaded up my plate in eager anticipation. I’d commence to eating and realize partially through that I had become full. My mom did not believe in wasting food. “There are poor starving children in Africa,” she would remind me. So, I had to sit and finish everything on my plate, while my mother remarked, “Your eyes were bigger than your stomach.” I wanted more food than I had the capacity to consume.
I was reminded of this aphorism last week. I had successfully managed to triple book myself. On Sunday afternoon, my sister was in town with my niece and nephew. I also had tickets to see Madam Butterfly at the Kennedy Center, and I was scheduled to teach a charity yoga class--all three things on the same day at the same time.
I knew my sister was coming to visit and attend my going away party. We had been discussing it for weeks. The same was true for the yoga class. I had expressly picked that Sunday to teach it. When my friends and I bought our tickets to the opera back in March, I put the date on my calendar right away. But somehow mentally they were three separate events. I didn’t make the connection that they all would be the same day—and at the same time. Clearly, putting them onto my iCalendar didn’t help either.
I realized my error the week before when I sat down to do my monthly planning. As I filled in the major events for the month of May, I finally came to the realization that I had booked three things at once. I called my sister to find out when they were planning to head back to North Carolina (right after brunch, around noon). I also tried to reschedule the yoga class for later in the evening, after the opera performance.
Things basically worked themselves out. My sister left later than expected, but she was on the road about 45 minutes before curtain call. I got to my seat with a few minutes to spare. None of the participants who had registered for the earlier class signed up again at the later time, so we canceled the event. I hated to do that, but I also was wiped up from a really full weekend. That’s when I realized my eyes had been bigger than my calendar. I had wanted to do more stuff than I had the bandwidth to complete. In addition to the opera, yoga class and farewell party, I also hosted a yard sale on Saturday morning and took my niece and nephew around the Adams Morgan neighborhood for several hours that evening. By Sunday late afternoon, I was wiped out.
I had to reset my expectations for my May calendar. As much as I enjoy fun activities and times with friends, the next few weeks are all about packing and moving out of my house. So, I have asked friends to come over to help, which also allows me to have a little catch up and socialization time. When people have invited me to do things, I have told them it will have to wait until June when I am finished. Right now, I need to reserve my time for finishing up my contract in DC and getting moved out of my house. Those are the two biggest priorities for now. Everything else will have to come after them.
Finally, I want to offer an apology to those who had been looking forward to my Curvy Yoga class. At least one person didn’t realize that the class had been cancelled, and traveled into DC to attend. I pride myself on being a woman of integrity, and felt awful that I had not kept my word. The only explanation I can offer is that my eyes were just too big. I apologize.
Madam Butterfly photo courtesy of Cfile Daily
Crystal Moore began her wellness quest in 2003 after being diagnosed with lupus. Her quest has led her to embrace yoga, faith, exercise, healthy eating, and relationships. Share her journey.