The day I have dreaded for the last four months arrived this week. My godmother Annie passed early Tuesday morning after a 2-year battle with cancer. My heart has been heavy ever since... yet I have been able to see the streaks of silver all around me. Here are some of the things for which I am grateful:
I’m not making a PSA about the importance of abstinence from sex (although it is covered in the Yoga Sutras). No, this blog post is about setting boundaries. Nice girls say no to people who try to use and abuse them. They also say no to being taken for granted. Nice girls say no when it is in their best interests. And sometimes, nice girls say no just for fun!
I boarded a bus in DC headed to Philadelphia at 7:15 this morning. I had plans to meet my senior thesis advisor from my undergrad days 20 years ago. After falling out of touch, we reconnected in 2008, when I randomly ran into him on the street in front of the New Orleans hotel where we were both staying. He was there with a group of Penn students doing Alternative Spring Break (read: community service trip) in the Lower Ninth Ward following Katrina. I was there attending the annual ASCD conference for teachers and teacher leaders. In the ensuing years, I have reached out to him every year or so to check in, get career advice, and make sure he is taking good care of himself. This week, his assistant emailed me to ask what type of salad I wanted for lunch. We would be ordering from healthy eatery SweetGreen—a sure sign he is holding up his end of the bargain. Spending quality time talking about my plans for the future with this influential man is just one of the many things I am celebrating this week:
Last week, I wrote about the importance of going with the flow. By that, I mean being in touch with your emotions, physical body, sensations, thoughts, and the promptings of the Divine Spirit that dwells within you. The Spirit lets you know what the next best step is in every situation. When you decide to take a nap in the middle of the afternoon, apologize for your harsh words to a loved one, or take a casserole to a friend who has four children under the age of four—including two-month-old twin girls—that’s going with the flow. Afterwards, you often feel a deep sense of calm and contentment, knowing you are in step with the Spirit. But that isn’t always the case when you go with the flow.
I have been traveling quite a bit lately. In the last two weeks, I was in Miami and New York City twice. I love exploring new places and visiting old favorites. But it leaves me feeling a little ... scattered. I've been home since Monday evening, and I have been recovering every since. I have been doing laundry, putting away things, getting organized, and trying to get centered and rooted once more. This weekend, I will be taking two or three yoga classes, which also will help me feel more grounded. I am grateful to have a place where I can practice that is close to home. These are some of the other things I am celebrating this week:
Crystal Moore began her wellness quest in 2003 after being diagnosed with lupus. Her quest has led her to embrace yoga, faith, exercise, healthy eating, and relationships. Share her journey.